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Offering XI


I offer to the iThou Circle this dream catcher that was made for me by a patient as a gift. It is a reminder for me to be present to the suffering that I encounter in my life. My time as a hospice nurse is on hold for the moment but in my daily life there are so many situations that can be given the gift of true listening and witnessed whether a tangible outcome is possible or not. The recent posts from both Mindy and Anjela brought this dream catcher back into my awareness and I feel it is time to pass along this symbol of being with those who are suffering.



First, this offering is being given to the iThou circle. The person that feels they want/need to receive this can contact me here at this entry and say something of why they are receiving this from the iThou circle (not personally from me).

Second, the recipient can send me a private message with their address and I will send this to them. You must be a member of iThou and no money is exchanged.

Third, the only “obligation” for the person receiving an object is to find something that they would like to give to the iThou circle in the same manner and spirit of this “offering”.

In Loving,


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Carole – December 28, 2007 – 12:51am

I have one over my bed that I picked up in Australia when I lived there- It is threadbare  now but I am attached to its symbolism  :) whomever is lucky to have this will so love it.

Thank you Carole for a lovely offering.


AnjelaM – December 28, 2007 – 7:16pm

I thought I was supposed to offer the next one as I received the previous one by Steven...? Are the multiple offerings? Does someone know? Thanks, Monika


away – December 28, 2007 – 10:40pm
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Since I initiated this experiment I will step in...

First off, we are making this up as it goes along. To date there has only been one offering up at a time (as it is now). People receiving have not always immediately offered something up, nor is there any reason that I see that  we need to go about this in a linear fashion. I believe we can trust that the person that has received something does not have to immediately offer something. They can wait for the "spirit" of givning to call, and they will know what and when to give something to the circle.

For now, It might be easier if only one offering is up at a time... since we are still learning our way into this "tradition." We just don't need to follow any specific order of when we offer something to the circle.

Hope this helps...  To read more about Offerings click here: Offerings

sh – December 29, 2007 – 7:43am

Thank you for your wonderful offering to the iThou cirlce.

sh – December 29, 2007 – 7:49am

I am all for a non-linear offering. It will then almost be like a spiral, nice. I have no idea yet what to offer, and this takes a bit of the pressure of of wanting to offer something asap. I can now let something come to me and then offer it.

I love the goddess and she is now on my fire place until I will hang her in my bedroom. When I see you next, Steve, I would like to have a second d in goddess. You used a pencil so you can easily do that, if that's OK. Sorry, I am a hopeless editor:-) 

OK, I am getting ready for my massage. I had that booked long before I knew I would go to Esalen. So I kept the appointment. It's actually nice so the re-entry shock into the real world is not as hard today. Have a great Saturday. 

away – December 29, 2007 – 9:56am

I just discovered the "offering" circle on ithou. This is beautiful and great. Thanks for the wonderful idea Steve. That dreamcatcher is beautiful and I hope it comes across to someone in need.



Jasmine M – October 31, 2008 – 10:27pm

First off... thanks for bringing this to front... I missed the recent posts to this thread. Donna, Jasmine, and others... please jump in an participate by accepting this gift from our Offering circle. I know that Carole was in the process of moving and I am not sure that Carole is still participating in iThou. If she is not we can begin again.

This whole idea was/is an experiment. It was very powerful in that it made direct connections among those of us that have participated which went a step beyond the virtual connections we have.  I have been considering letting the Offering section of the site go as of late it has not been used. If this experiment turns out to be something that does not serve our community I am quite willing to freely let it go...  So... please...  an open invitation to jump in accept something and/or offer something (do read the basic instruction for Offerings:

Gratefully, Steven



sh – November 11, 2008 – 9:33am

I still "owe" an offering as well. Even though I think of it each time I look at your drawing, I was so absorbed in Google and now am so busy with the conference. Once that is over, I am sure I will have time to think about something. So hopefully around the holdiday time. :-)

away – November 11, 2008 – 9:42am

If the offering of your dream catcher is still available, I would love to take you up on in. I woke up this morning with the most vivid and awkward dreams. And, recieved an email with a photo attached "The Dream" by Rousseau which resembles a meditation I had a couple weeks ago. I forgot about this post until this morning when I saw it had new comments, while I was reading through all the others. So, if it's still available, I believe there is some magic for me to experience with it.




Jasmine M – November 11, 2008 – 11:10am

Thanks to all for keeping the experiment alive... it is a work in progress... much of which we are making up as we go along. Blessing to all, S

sh – November 11, 2008 – 2:47pm

Hello Jasmine,

I haven't been in touch with IThou for several months but was drawn to sign in today to catch up and saw that the offerings thread had resurfaced.  The dreamcatcher has been awaiting travels to a new home - please forward your address and I will send it along to you with love and light.

Blessings for your dreams,


Carole – November 19, 2008 – 6:11pm see you back, Carole, and this good iThou tradition reinvigorated.

John Francis Ca... – November 19, 2008 – 6:17pm

... like John said, it is nice to have you back... thank you for your gift to our circle.


sh – November 20, 2008 – 7:29am


I owe you a phone call.


Kristy Bliss – November 21, 2008 – 7:04am

Please let's keep going with this idea. It's beautiful. And represents the bonds of real community that grow here.

Happy trails, D.

Scarlet Rose – January 1, 2009 – 9:06am

I can't wait to see the next offering....How does it work again...can a person just offer something randomly or does it HAVE to be in order?

AnjelaM – February 9, 2009 – 3:08pm


HI all,

 The offering concept is new to me..i love it...i am moving soon...i too have some meaningful we know i am having to short sale my home...and so i will be downsizing...i will look in my home for something i'd rather not toss that is meaning ful and gift it to someone who wants it in the group...what a lovely idea...take care....i am a school teacher and so had back to school night tonight...lovely to meet the parents of my kidlets.

night offering to all of us is peace, joy, health  and love.


mimijean – February 9, 2009 – 8:46pm

Just about everytime I think it is time to let this experiment go, it comes to life again. There are detailed instructions for this part of the site here: Offerings 

I think it is best to only have one or two offerings up at a time... if only to make it less confusing. It does not have to be in order. One person might  receive more from the circle, while another offers more. I trust it all balances out somehow, somewhere, sometime, and if not, oh well. We are making parts of this up as it goes along.

I don't know about others, but I get confused past roman numeral X (and especially past 100). I suggest we use the numbers that we are all easily familar with. That means we would be up to Offering 12 should someone decide to offer something into the circle.

I hope this helps clarify things... and I too look forward to the next offering

Steven Harper


sh – February 10, 2009 – 8:00am

I was a bit confused- but not now!

AnjelaM – February 12, 2009 – 7:04am

who needs something really useful. Like groceries or a trip to a dentist  or for us  females a annual mamogram in memory of all the women who have had to suffer from breast cancers and couldn't afford timely check ups. Or hair salon or massage- you need it put it on the list and each week we could just give give give.....  Or for men a trip to the urologist or proctologist. Now that's truly giving tee hee Any ideas? If someone wants to give or receive it doesn't take much time. A person could do it in a few minutes.

AnjelaM – May 16, 2009 – 4:50pm

Thank you Carole

Thank you Anjela

Michael – May 16, 2009 – 6:33pm

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zombo09 – May 17, 2009 – 12:07am

The offering circle is a loverley idea. Reciprocality and passing it on. And sharing.

But, you guys do realize that by some people's definition, this makes you...

socialists! Giving away things freely! Sharing!  Anyway, thanks for starting this process of experiencing nonattachment.

When I lived at Esalen, I loved the Free Box and both received and gave there. Long live the Diggers!!!And the idea of giving and receiving within the circle is so...


Happy trails, D.

Scarlet Rose – May 17, 2009 – 6:08am

Carole thought I was the person who wanted the dream catcher. I have a dream catcher- a bit frayed but still does the trick!

I hope you both manage to connect as she needs your address to mail it to you.


AnjelaM – May 17, 2009 – 8:26am

Nice to see renewed interest in this part of the site.The Offerings section in my mind was/is an experiment in seeing if the virtual community that we have created here could be occasionally manifest in the physical form of giving and receiving.

When first introduced it was used and did help to build relationships. After some offering were exchanged between a small group many of the early pariticipants chose to step back allowing space for others to particiapte.

As this portion of the site has sat idle for quite a while I have suggested from time to time to Albert that maybe it was a good time to let go of this "experiment." In the groups I lead I have seen this form help deepen connections and I am not sure how it works in the online community.

What has come of this is many other gifts given or exchanged on the side. I was touched by a very generous gift I received after the fires last summer here in Big Sur. We came together to support the iThou server. I have recieved DVD's, offers for work (and work), and have been able to offer paid work when I needed help on a consulting project. I know of many relationships that have deepened through phone conversations and face to face meetings. I like that relationships are built virtually and I appreciate when they manifest in other forms.

I have plenty of gifts lined up to offer into the circle, and... and, I have been waiting to see who else might step in and offer, and who might let themselves receive. So, Angela... and others... if you have something you would like to offer or receive I hope you put it out there. Perhaps there is some better form than the current Offerings. 

Albert wrote in the vision postings: "To co-create content resources with and for the community that will help benefit each person's growth, humanity, and connection with other members of the community."  I find it useful to revisit this sometimes forgotten part of the site: iThou Vision

I look forward to seeing what is next...



sh – May 17, 2009 – 8:31am

I had put in an "offfering" a while ago, but nobody seemed to want it so I withdrew it. 

At some point I might offer something else.

Even if this part of the site sometimes sits idle, I think it is good to have it here. And sometimes things go through cycles, where they might lie unused for a while and then get picked up again later. The universe is so organic. I hope you don't close the door on this part of the site at any time.

It's a brilliant idea.



"Everything that irritates us about others can lead us
to an understanding about ourselves"  - Carl Jung

"It is the enemy who can truly teach us to practic

Scarlet Rose – May 17, 2009 – 10:36am

i notice that friends arrive at iThou seeking martin buber community, meditation support as well as esalen connection. What a blessing!

henry glenn – May 17, 2009 – 1:39pm

I am offering a "Happiness card set". These are the cards I developed over the past 4 weeks. They consists of 26 cards with practices on how to create sustainable happiness at work and in life. Please let me know who would like a free set. I was technically the next person to offer something as I received the last gift from Steve (which I still adore daily).


away – May 17, 2009 – 1:42pm

I have emailed Carole with my information... I just thought maybe she forgot lol..

Jasmine M – May 19, 2009 – 12:08am

What happens to all the dreams that aren't caught?

AnjelaM – May 19, 2009 – 3:45am