I’m so glad that I live in a multi-level head ..there are so many rooms ..I don’t have to go anywhere ..I can do all my traveling from home. I run up the stairs ..where the police harass me for having problems with authority. I run up the stairs ..where an attorney is waiting to brief me. I run up the stairs where my ex-partner shoots me. I find an empty room ..where I’m safe ..but alone. Across the hall is a room full of books ..I pull one off the shelf that says I suffer from an ‘inability to communicate with my father’ ..tell me something I don’t know ..further down it says that my father suffers from an 'inability to communicate with me' ..OK, now I feel like an oddball ..until I reach the part that says he’s probably an oddball too ..and I’m relieved to know there are two sides to that story too.
Lee,
I love how you describe the working of your infrastructure. I explained myself in the exact same way to someone but had never entertained the idea that others also felt the same. Guess that means I'm not such an "oddball" either, well.......maybe.
Gina
Thank you, yea ..helps me feel a little less odd ..then when I remember to ask 'what's normal' ..I don't feel odd at all anymore ..sure appreciate your comment
i have a little yellow tonka schoolbus that i use in my gestalt practice a lot. someone will be saying "i don't understand how he can do that when he told me so and so" and i hold up that little bus. or "i hate her for what she did to me so how can i miss her so much?" and up comes the bus. we are each so many different 'people' inside and the simple acceptance of that often appears to quiet the rational mind's angst over the unrelenting paradoxes inside. i say let 'em ALL breathe - speak - drive. let 'em get to know ONE ANOTHER, first from where they really are (ie "I HATE you - you keep getting me into trouble") to hopefully an organic unfolding to something like "how can i help? is there a way 'you' can get your needs met w/o as much collateral damage on the rest of us?"
Me too!